Client Stories and Testimonials
She kept sabotaging her life
It wasn't intentional but it was predictable.

She grew up feeling like she could never please her dad.  As an adult she could see that he had his own challenges and she didn't blame him.  But she couldn't get past the inner voice that told her she wasn't enough and never would be enough.  Her dad had passed and she could not hope to get validation from him.  The negative thoughts effected her personal life, her relationships and her success in business.  She couldn't accept that she was actually good at anything, even when others praised her talents and accomplishments.  She tried random positive thinking but it was temporary and she felt like she was faking it.  

Her breakthrough came after a session of deeply looking at what her negative thoughts were costing her.  This created a deep desire to pursue transformation. She opened the door for truth instead of the lies. Then came the practice of recognizing those thoughts and replacing them with the truth. She spoke the truth out loud.  She has come a long way, recognizing and thwarting those thoughts much more quickly now. Her days are lighter, her future hopeful.  

Our words to ourselves are powerful.



A woman had dealt with
deep depression that started when her brother suicided.

It had happened over 10 years previous to us meeting.  In a suicide note her brother had blamed her.  She could rationalize that his choice was not her fault, yet since she didn't have an answer for the question he asked in his last communication, an answer that would settle her mind, in her heart she couldn't answer the accusation.  The message she heard was that his death was her fault. The guilt was debilitating. 

She had tried several interventions over the years, with some temporary relief.  But the heavy burden and the accompanying depression always returned.

We talked for about 30 minutes and she became aware of the answer.  The truth had been hiding under the guilt.  Once she saw it everything changed.  She was free, completely free from the dark cloud that consumed her.  Years later she was still free, tracing it back to that one moment of clarity that changed everything.

The truth is powerful.  



He reached out 
wanting support through a business transition.

He took the assessment that I offer to give him further direction.  Part of some targeted training he was taking involved learning a new software program.  It was causing him a lot of frustration.  Not so much because it was difficult, but because he thought it should be easier for him.  His negative self-talk was telling him he was not smart enough.  Every time he needed to work on it he felt defeated and "less than".

Noticing his demeanor when he talked about it I suggested we look again at his assessment report.  In the skills section technology was way down on his list.  His top skills were consistent with his business transition, but tech was a weak area for him.  The truth was, tech was harder for him than other areas.  But it didn't mean he wasn't smart or that he couldn't eventually get it.  It gave him choices-he could hire someone else to do that part, he could hire someone to teach it to him, or he could be patient with himself while he figured it out.  The pressure, the guilt and the shame were gone.  Once he was able to look at the situation truthfully he could dismiss the lies.  It changed the way he approached the challenge. 


Our perception is powerful.

It was a messy divorce.
He was needing to make important decisions for his children's welfare

He was confused by what he knew he needed to do to protect his children and the thoughts that he was depriving his wife.  He could think about little else.  Every time he was close to making the decision he wanted to make, the one he felt he needed to make, doubts and accusations crept in. 

A few days after one particularly meaningful session where we dug into what was actually true he reported back-everything had become crystal clear.  His perception of the situation had changed. He knew exactly what he needed to do and he was prepared to do it.  With complete conviction, he was no longer subject to the invading confusing thoughts.  


Exposing false guilt is powerful.





"...but be transformed by the renewal of your mind..."
Romans 12:2