Mindset Coaching
Leveraging the power of neuroplasticity





What negative thoughts are getting in your way?  We all have them in varying frequency and intensity.  Our minds have been trained to believe partial truths and outright lies about ourselves, about God, about the way things work. and about the others in our world. They attack our confidence and create doubt. They can become paralyzing.

The thing is we are born with our brains on negative default mode.  As we go through life those patterns of thought are either strengthened or weakened.  The good news is we can change those patterns.  Not with over-the-top affirmations that we know aren't true.  Not forcing ourselves to think positive thoughts.  But by realizing and acting on what is true. 


Some disempowering thoughts and our response
What can you add to this list?
Negative thought

  • I'm not enough
  • I don't have enough
  • I need to fight for everything I need/want
  • I am not allowed to mess up
  • Mistakes have long lasting bad consequences
  • Anytime I can be exposed as a fraud
  • I have nothing important to share
  • I need to defend myself


Fear response

  • So I have to try really hard to become enough
  • So I can't be generous
  •  I can't let others succeed, life is cutthroat
  • I need to be in control of myself at all times
  • Be very slow to make decisions, don't take risks
  •  I can't let others really know me, I can't risk vulnerability
  • I will be quiet at meetings and groups so I'm not exposed
  • I cannot allow criticism or any negative feedback

Numerous recent studies are helping us to understand the brain's ability to change.  It is far more resilient than previously thought. Science is showing us that our brains continue to grow and shape and reshape by various factors.  

A key factor is intentionally choosing what we think and how we think.  Even long-held beliefs, ones that have shaped us since childhood can be changed.  

We can choose our thoughts instead of letting our thoughts choose who we are and who we will become. 

There are techniques and tools and practices that will effectively rewire our brain.  Our default changes.  Instead of being fearful we can become confident and resolute.  Instead of living under a cloud of false guilt we can enjoy lightness and peace.  



What would it be like to be free of the negative thoughts? 





"Every thought you have triggers the release of neurochemicals, which are involved in rewiring your brain.
Negative thoughts cause your brain to immediately release chemicals that affect every cell in your body, making you feel bad. The opposite is also true—positive, happy, hopeful thoughts release chemicals that make you feel good."  Dr. Daniel Amen, Amen Clinics
A woman had dealt with
deep depression that started when her brother suicided.

It had happened over 10 years previous to us meeting.  In a suicide note her brother had blamed her.  She could rationalize that his choice was not her fault, yet since she didn't have an answer for the question he asked in his last communication, an answer that would settle her mind, in her heart she couldn't answer the accusation.  The message she heard was that his death was her fault. The guilt was debilitating. 

She had tried several interventions over the years, with some temporary relief.  But the heavy burden and the accompanying depression always returned.

We talked for about 30 minutes and she became aware of the answer.  The truth had been hiding under the guilt.  Once she saw it everything changed.  She was free, completely free from the dark cloud that consumed her.  

The truth is powerful.  



It was a messy divorce.
He was needing to make important decisions for his children's welfare

He was confused by what he knew he needed to do to protect his children and the thoughts that he was depriving his wife.  He could think about little else.  Every time he was close to making the decision he wanted to make, the one he felt he needed to make, doubts and accusations crept in. 

A few days after one particularly meaningful session he reported back-everything had become crystal clear.  His perception of the situation had changed. He knew exactly what he needed to do and he was prepared to do it.  With complete conviction, he was no longer subject to the invading negative thoughts.  


Our perception is powerful.





She kept sabotaging her life
It wasn't intentional but it was predictable.

She grew up feeling like she could never please her dad.  As an adult she could see that he had his own challenges and she didn't blame him.  But she couldn't get past the inner voice that told her she wasn't enough and never would be enough.  Her dad had passed and she could not hope to get validation from him.  The negative thoughts effected her personal life, her relationships and her success in business.  She couldn't accept that she was actually good at anything, even when others praised her talents and accomplishments.  She tried random positive thinking but it was temporary and she felt like she was faking it.  

Her breakthrough came after a session of deeply looking at what her negative thoughts were costing her.  This created a deep desire to pursue transformation. We opened the door for truth instead of the lies. Then came the practice of recognizing those thoughts and replacing them with the truth. She spoke the truth out loud.  She has come a long way, recognizing and thwarting those thoughts much more quickly now. Her days are lighter, her future hopeful.  

Our words to ourselves are powerful.



Work with Me
 
 
I have been studying and experiencing the mystery of brain transformation for many years. Ancient texts tell us that the way we think about ourselves is who we become.  And to pay attention to how we think and what we think. Telling us that how we think affects us. And that choosing our thoughts carefully is beneficial.  I am fascinated by the studies coming out that show the effects of our thoughts on our brain and our physiology.

What I provide is not therapy.  As a certified Mental Health Coach I work with clients to identify and disarm the unwelcome thoughts.  You will learn and practice techniques to free yourself and create empowering mindsets.  

Change your thoughts, change your life.