Mindset Coaching
Leveraging the power of neuroplasticity





What negative thoughts are getting in your way?  We all have them in varying frequency and intensity.  Our minds have been trained to believe partial truths and outright lies about ourselves, about God, about the way things work. and about the others in our world. They attack our confidence and create doubt. They can become paralyzing.

The thing is we are born with our brains on negative default mode.  As we go through life those patterns of thought are either strengthened or weakened.  The good news is we can change those patterns.  Not with over-the-top affirmations that we know aren't true.  Not forcing ourselves to think positive thoughts.  But by realizing and acting on what is true. 



Numerous recent studies are helping us to understand the brain's ability to change.  It is far more resilient than previously thought. Science is showing us that our brains continue to grow and shape and reshape by various factors.  

A key factor is intentionally choosing what we think and how we think.  Even long-held beliefs, ones that have shaped us since childhood can be changed.  

We can choose our thoughts instead of letting our thoughts choose who we are and who we will become. 

There are techniques and tools and practices that will effectively rewire our brain.  Our default changes.  Instead of being fearful we can become confident and resolute.  Instead of living under a cloud of false guilt we can enjoy lightness and peace.  



What would it be like to be free of the negative thoughts? 





"Every thought you have triggers the release of neurochemicals, which are involved in rewiring your brain.
Negative thoughts cause your brain to immediately release chemicals that affect every cell in your body, making you feel bad. The opposite is also true—positive, happy, hopeful thoughts release chemicals that make you feel good."  Dr. Daniel Amen, Amen Clinics
She kept sabotaging her life
It wasn't intentional but it was predictable.

She grew up feeling like she could never please her dad.  As an adult she could see that he had his own challenges and she didn't blame him.  But she couldn't get past the inner voice that told her she wasn't enough and never would be enough.  Her dad had passed and she could not hope to get validation from him.  The negative thoughts effected her personal life, her relationships and her success in business.  She couldn't accept that she was actually good at anything, even when others praised her talents and accomplishments.  She tried random positive thinking but it was temporary and she felt like she was faking it.  

Her breakthrough came after a session of deeply looking at what her negative thoughts were costing her.  This created a deep desire to pursue transformation. She opened the door for truth instead of the lies. Then came the practice of recognizing those thoughts and replacing them with the truth. She spoke the truth out loud.  She has come a long way, recognizing and thwarting those thoughts much more quickly now. Her days are lighter, her future hopeful.  

Our words to ourselves are powerful.



A woman had dealt with
deep depression that started when her brother suicided.

It had happened over 10 years previous to us meeting.  In a suicide note her brother had blamed her.  She could rationalize that his choice was not her fault, yet since she didn't have an answer for the question he asked in his last communication, an answer that would settle her mind, in her heart she couldn't answer the accusation.  The message she heard was that his death was her fault. The guilt was debilitating. 

She had tried several interventions over the years, with some temporary relief.  But the heavy burden and the accompanying depression always returned.

We talked for about 30 minutes and she became aware of the answer.  The truth had been hiding under the guilt.  Once she saw it everything changed.  She was free, completely free from the dark cloud that consumed her.  

The truth is powerful.  



He reached out 
wanting support through a business transition.

He took the assessment that I offer to give him further direction.  Part of some targeted training he was taking involved learning a new software program.  It was causing him a lot of frustration.  Not so much because it was difficult, but because he thought it should be easier for him.  His negative self-talk was telling him he was not smart enough.  Every time he needed to work on it he felt defeated and "less than".

Noticing his demeanor when he talked about it I suggested we look again at his assessment report.  In the skills section technology was way down on his list.  His top skills were consistent with his business transition, but tech was a weak area for him.  The truth was, tech was harder for him than other areas.  But it didn't mean he wasn't smart or that he couldn't eventually get it.  It gave him choices-he could hire someone else to do that part, he could hire someone to teach it to him, or he could be patient with himself while he figured it out.  The pressure, the guilt and the shame were gone.  Once he was able to look at the situation truthfully he could dismiss the lies.  It changed the way he approached the challenge. 


Our perception is powerful.
Work with Me
 
I have been studying and experiencing the mystery of brain transformation for over 2 decades. Ancient texts tell us that the way we think about ourselves is who we become.  And to pay attention to how we think and what we think. Telling us that how we think affects us. And that choosing our thoughts carefully is beneficial.  I am fascinated by the studies coming out that show the effects of our thoughts on our brain and our physiology.  When we repeatedly choose different thoughts our brain rewires itself.  We actually can be free of the negative thoughts that adversely effect every area of our lives.

What I provide is not therapy.  As a certified Mental Health Coach I work with clients to identify and disarm the unwelcome thoughts.  You will learn and practice techniques to free yourself and create empowering mindsets.  

Change your thoughts, change your life.