Co-worker, spouse, student, parent, sister, friend...? Each one of the roles we live in involves navigating relationships. How we interact in these different areas has a huge impact on our happiness and sense of well-being. Even our physical health.
Yet we can find ourselves ill-equipped to successfully navigate our relationships.
They seem to be harder than they need to be. We want a peaceful happy connection yet we find contention and resentment. We can give up on connections that could have a profound impact on our quality of life because they are hard. But we don't have to.
Relationship skills can be learned. Years of helping clients with relationship issues has shown me first-hand proof. Like everything else meaninful in life, our important connections need maintenance. Learning and growing.
Some of our challenges are due to different communication styles, different expectations of the relationship, our family dynamics growing up, and more. Then we add to that clashing needs, miscommunication and mindsets and we are often either in the midst of a storm or waiting for the next one to hit. This dynamic makes it difficult to build trust and emotional intimacy in our relationships, something that we crave.
The good news is that there are very effective tools to:
De-escalate
Get on the same page,
See the problem as the problem and not the other person
Really hear and understand the other
Communicate our own needs and wants
Loneliness
This is becoming more and more common. With remote working and learning and spending excess time and emotional energy on social media we are losing our ability to interact with each other. We pass up opportunities to connect with others in the coffee line, in the elevator. It's easier to stay in our own bubble, staring at our phones and ignoring those around us. We are losing our ability to connect on many levels.
And yet we need others in our lives. We are social beings. This is the cause of much of the rise in depression rates.
What can we control? Ourselves. How we interact with others. How we think about them, what we are willing to give to a relationship and what we are not.
Let's take a look at what you want and need and how to get there. It is possible.
Does your to-do list consistently outpace your time? Does this sound like you? You rush through your day. To relieve the stress of hurry you wander off into Instagram or Facebook posts. You spend too much time there, then you rush to make up for the time you lost. At the end of the day you are exhausted and disappointed and have nothing left. The next day it starts all over again.
Many of us are resistant to a schedule. They seem constraining, and limiting. I know. Being very unstructured by design, I struggled for years. I also found that without a schedule I was wasting time. I would get to the end of my day with a lot still on my to-do list. I would feel defeated. Another failure on my part. I was letting myself and others down. The most important was a failure to keep my commitents to myself. I discovered some methods that actually worked for unstructured me! Instead of constraining, my schedule became liberating.
Does your to-do list consistently outpace your time? Does this sound like you? You rush through your day. To relieve the stress of hurry you wander off into Instagram or Facebook posts. You spend too much time there, then you rush to make up for the time you lost. At the end of the day you are exhausted and disappointed and have nothing left. The next day it starts all over again.
Many of us are resistant to a schedule. They seem constraining, and limiting. I know. Being very unstructured by design, I struggled for years. I also found that without a schedule I was wasting time. I would get to the end of my day with a lot still on my to-do list. I would feel defeated. Another failure on my part. I was letting myself and others down. The most important was a failure to keep my commitents to myself. I discovered some methods that actually worked for unstructured me! Instead of constraining, my schedule became liberating.
Does your to-do list consistently outpace your time? Does this sound like you? You rush through your day. To relieve the stress of hurry you wander off into Instagram or Facebook posts. You spend too much time there, then you rush to make up for the time you lost. At the end of the day you are exhausted and disappointed and have nothing left. The next day it starts all over again.
Many of us are resistant to a schedule. They seem constraining, and limiting. I know. Being very unstructured by design, I struggled for years. I also found that without a schedule I was wasting time. I would get to the end of my day with a lot still on my to-do list. I would feel defeated. Another failure on my part. I was letting myself and others down. The most important was a failure to keep my commitments to myself. I discovered some methods that actually worked for unstructured me! Instead of constraining, my schedule became liberating.
Your To-Do List
One of my biggest challenges with time management was how to schedule when there were so many "unknowns" in my day. Those things I couldn't control, the interruptions that would totally derail my well-made plans.
Another pushback was trying to make someone else's schedule work for me. When it didn't I told myself it was me, I was just unorganized. A lie that further deflated me.
Through my struggles to find order in the chaos, be more organized and increase productivity came my 5-day series to get you fast results.
Thank you, Linda, for helping me turn good intentions into reality!
"Good intentions, procrastination, and guilt. That was me before Linda’s time management coaching. My “important but not urgent” tasks and goals like working out, meal planning, and long-range planning for my job as a home educator stayed on my mind but never on my calendar. I was managing life with a low-level feeling of guilt that I wasn’t getting to the stuff that would make a real difference for me and my family. Sometimes in frustration I would hammer out an action plan, but the plans never stuck.
When I first heard about the opportunity for Linda’s time management coaching, I didn’t think it would apply to my role as a homeschooling mom of three. I couldn’t have been more wrong! After less than two weeks of working with Linda, I have new rhythms in place that respect my goals and my capacities. My days feel full, but not frantic. Each morning I look forward to checking my calendar, knowing I have a realistic plan in place. Thank you, Linda, for helping me turn good intentions into reality!" R. Thompson
5 Days to Making Peace with Your To-Do List-$299
Invest a little bit of time to gain more time
Invest a little bit of money for a lifetime of greater peace in your days
Day 1
One-hour zoom session to discover your challenges and to-dos. I coach you through different ways to think about and approach your tasks, how to pivot, allow for flexibility and stay on course. We create lists and schedules that will work for you.
Days 2-5
We meet for 20-30 minutes to discuss what worked, what didn't and we make adjustments where needed. These next 4 sessions can be spread out to fit your needs.
Co-worker, spouse, student, parent, sister, friend...? Each one of the roles we live in involves navigating relationships. How we interact in these different areas has a huge impact on our happiness and sense of well-being. Even our physical health.
Yet we can find ourselves ill-equipped to successfully navigate our relationships.
They seem to be harder than they need to be. We want a peaceful happy connection yet we find contention and resentment. We can give up on connections that could have a profound impact on our quality of life because they are hard. But we don't have to.
Relationship skills can be learned. Years of helping clients with relationship issues has shown me first-hand proof. Like everything else meaninful in life, our important connections need maintenance. Learning and growing.
Some of our challenges are due to different communication styles, different expectations of the relationship, our family dynamics growing up, and more. Then we add to that clashing needs, miscommunication and mindsets and we are often either in the midst of a storm or waiting for the next one to hit. This dynamic makes it difficult to build trust and emotional intimacy in our relationships, something that we crave.
The good news is that there are very effective tools to:
De-escalate
Get on the same page,
See the problem as the problem and not the other person
Really hear and understand the other
Communicate our own needs and wants
Loneliness
This is becoming more and more common. With remote working and learning and spending excess time and emotional energy on social media we are losing our ability to interact with each other. We pass up opportunities to connect with others in the coffee line, in the elevator. It's easier to stay in our own bubble, staring at our phones and ignoring those around us. We are losing our ability to connect on many levels.
And yet we need others in our lives. We are social beings. This is the cause of much of the rise in depression rates.
What can we control? Ourselves. How we interact with others. How we think about them, what we are willing to give to a relationship and what we are not.
Let's take a look at what you want and need and how to get there. It is possible.
Does your to-do list consistently outpace your time? Does this sound like you? You rush through your day. To relieve the stress of hurry you wander off into Instagram or Facebook posts. You spend too much time there, then you rush to make up for the time you lost. At the end of the day you are exhausted and disappointed and have nothing left. The next day it starts all over again.
Many of us are resistant to a schedule. They seem constraining, and limiting. I know. Being very unstructured by design, I struggled for years. I also found that without a schedule I was wasting time. I would get to the end of my day with a lot still on my to-do list. I would feel defeated. Another failure on my part. I was letting myself and others down. The most important was a failure to keep my commitents to myself. I discovered some methods that actually worked for unstructured me! Instead of constraining, my schedule became liberating.
Does your to-do list consistently outpace your time? Does this sound like you? You rush through your day. To relieve the stress of hurry you wander off into Instagram or Facebook posts. You spend too much time there, then you rush to make up for the time you lost. At the end of the day you are exhausted and disappointed and have nothing left. The next day it starts all over again.
Many of us are resistant to a schedule. They seem constraining, and limiting. I know. Being very unstructured by design, I struggled for years. I also found that without a schedule I was wasting time. I would get to the end of my day with a lot still on my to-do list. I would feel defeated. Another failure on my part. I was letting myself and others down. The most important was a failure to keep my commitents to myself. I discovered some methods that actually worked for unstructured me! Instead of constraining, my schedule became liberating.
Does your to-do list consistently outpace your time? Does this sound like you? You rush through your day. To relieve the stress of hurry you wander off into Instagram or Facebook posts. You spend too much time there, then you rush to make up for the time you lost. At the end of the day you are exhausted and disappointed and have nothing left. The next day it starts all over again.
Many of us are resistant to a schedule. They seem constraining, and limiting. I know. Being very unstructured by design, I struggled for years. I also found that without a schedule I was wasting time. I would get to the end of my day with a lot still on my to-do list. I would feel defeated. Another failure on my part. I was letting myself and others down. The most important was a failure to keep my commitments to myself. I discovered some methods that actually worked for unstructured me! Instead of constraining, my schedule became liberating.
Your To-Do List
One of my biggest challenges with time management was how to schedule when there were so many "unknowns" in my day. Those things I couldn't control, the interruptions that would totally derail my well-made plans.
Another pushback was trying to make someone else's schedule work for me. When it didn't I told myself it was me, I was just unorganized. A lie that further deflated me.
Through my struggles to find order in the chaos, be more organized and increase productivity came my 5-day series to get you fast results.
Thank you, Linda, for helping me turn good intentions into reality!
"Good intentions, procrastination, and guilt. That was me before Linda’s time management coaching. My “important but not urgent” tasks and goals like working out, meal planning, and long-range planning for my job as a home educator stayed on my mind but never on my calendar. I was managing life with a low-level feeling of guilt that I wasn’t getting to the stuff that would make a real difference for me and my family. Sometimes in frustration I would hammer out an action plan, but the plans never stuck.
When I first heard about the opportunity for Linda’s time management coaching, I didn’t think it would apply to my role as a homeschooling mom of three. I couldn’t have been more wrong! After less than two weeks of working with Linda, I have new rhythms in place that respect my goals and my capacities. My days feel full, but not frantic. Each morning I look forward to checking my calendar, knowing I have a realistic plan in place. Thank you, Linda, for helping me turn good intentions into reality!" R. Thompson
5 Days to Making Peace with Your To-Do List-$299
Invest a little bit of time to gain more time
Invest a little bit of money for a lifetime of greater peace in your days
Day 1
One-hour zoom session to discover your challenges and to-dos. I coach you through different ways to think about and approach your tasks, how to pivot, allow for flexibility and stay on course. We create lists and schedules that will work for you.
Days 2-5
We meet for 20-30 minutes to discuss what worked, what didn't and we make adjustments where needed. These next 4 sessions can be spread out to fit your needs.